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THE BLIND SIDE MICHAEL OHER Conservatorship Controversy Explained

Laura Blumenstiel, JD Dec. 5, 2023

Michael Oher has had a remarkable life so far. He was born to a single mother struggling with addiction and grew up in and out of foster care. Yet, Oher went on to star as a University of Mississippi football player and was selected in the first round of the 2009 NFL draft. He played eight seasons in the NFL, won a Super Bowl in 2016, and is the subject of a book that inspired an Oscar-winning movie, The Blind Side.

Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy took Oher into their home when he was in high school and were appointed as conservators of his estate. They are featured prominently in The Blind Side. But Oher has recently alleged that contrary to the movie’s portrayal of events, the Tuohys never actually adopted him. Oher alleges that the Tuohys tricked him into agreeing to the conservatorship and unjustly profited from his trust in them.

While the accusations will play out in court, they raise questions about conservatorships, when they're necessary, and how they affect estate planning.

What Is a Conservatorship?

A conservatorship is a court-ordered arrangement that gives one person (or several people), called a conservator, legal authority to manage the affairs of another person, known as a conservatee or ward.

Most jurisdictions—including Tennessee, where Michael Oher's conservatorship was created—recognize two types of conservatorships:

  1. A conservatorship of the person authorizes a conservator to manage the personal affairs of the conservatee. This includes their healthcare and living arrangements.

  2. A conservatorship of the estate grants the conservator the authority to supervise the conservatee’s financial affairs. This includes managing their money, paying their bills, and in some instances, setting up an estate plan for them.

Conservatees are often children. But, they can also be adults who are incapacitated, have disabilities, or are otherwise deemed unable to handle their affairs. A famous example of this is the Britney Spears conservatorship. It was set up following her pattern of erratic behavior and placement in a psychiatric hospital. In Spears’s case, her conservatorship was split into two parts—one for her estate and one for her as a person.

A conservatorship may be established following a court petition by a friend or relative. The petition must explain the basis for establishing the proposed conservatorship. In many cases involving adult conservatorship, the petition must indicate that the conservatee is at risk of either injury to themselves (due to their inability to manage their daily needs or make medical decisions), or at risk of financial exploitation. Following an investigation and a hearing, the court decides whether a conservatorship is warranted.

If a conservatorship is granted, a conservator is named, and their specific powers are set out in a court order. Typically, the court requires that conservators file annual financial accountings or plans for the care of the person, depending on the type of conservatorship.

Michael Oher’s Conservatorship

In 2004, shortly after Oher turned 18 and before he signed on to play football at Ole Miss, a Tennessee judge entered an order establishing a conservatorship over Oher with the Tuohys as conservators. At the time, the conservatorship was established with the permission of Oher as well as his biological mother. According to the conservatorship filing, a judge declared that the Tuohys “should have all powers of attorney to act on his behalf and further that Oher shall not be allowed to enter into any contracts or bind himself without the direct approval of his conservators.”

Legal experts say the 2004 filing is unusual because Oher had “no known physical or psychological disabilities.” The petition notes that he was a good student and made the dean’s list his sophomore year.

In an August 14 petition to terminate the conservatorship, which was allegedly scheduled to end when Oher was 25 years old, Oher claimed that the Tuohys deceived him and did not act in his best interest.

His petition stated that:

  • He didn't understand that he was giving up his right to contract for himself,

  • The Tuohys misrepresented the conservatorship as an adoption, and that

  • "The lie of adoption” enabled the Tuohys to enrich themselves at the expense of Oher, including from film royalties.

In addition to seeking to end the conservatorship, the lawsuit filed by Oher sought:

  • A full accounting of assets

  • An injunction prohibiting the Tuohys from using his name, image and likeness,

  • Compensatory and punitive damages, and

  • Attorney's fees and costs

Adoption versus Conservatorship

Adopting Oher would have made him a member of the Tuohy family in the eyes of the law. Adoption would also have allowed Oher to retain power over his financial affairs.

The Tuohys say they are 'blindsided' by Oher’s accusations that they profited from the conservatorship. Their version of events portrays the conservatorship as necessary to help Oher with a driver’s license, health insurance, and the college admissions process. Sean Tuohy said he was advised by lawyers at the time that adoption was not an option because Oher was 18 and a legal adult.

Many states, including Tennessee, however, allow adult adoption. Adoption laws in Tennessee permit a person to be adopted at any age. When the adoptee is over the age of 18, consent from birth parents is not needed. This law is not new. As part of a fact check about adult adoptions in the state, a Tennessee adoption attorney told Fox 13 Memphis that they have been doing them for decades.

Conservatorships and Estate Planning

The Tennessee judge overseeing the case has signed an order ending the conservatorship. However, Oher’s accusations against the Tuohys will still have to play out in court. Among the legal questions to be answered are whether the Tuohys filed an annual report with an accounting of Oher’s finances and if they received money on Oher’s behalf and properly disbursed it to him.

Conservatorships, illustrated by the Michael Oher and Britney Spears cases, can sometimes lead to family feuds. Taking away somebody’s legal rights to make decisions—and giving those rights to somebody else—is often reserved only for extreme situations. For example, our office pursues conservatorships and guardianships when someone has a severe brain injury or dementia.

In such cases where the court declares that a person is unable to manage their own affairs, a conservator may be appointed. One of the rights the court may give to the conservator is the right to make an estate plan for the conservatee. The ward may later revoke or amend a conservator-drafted estate plan if they can show that they possess testamentary capacity or their rights delegated by the court are restored.

Given the restrictive nature of conservatorship and the lengthy court process to establish it, families may want to avoid conservatorship except when there is an imminent need that cannot be addressed through less restrictive means. If estate planning documents like powers of attorney are already in place, the family can avoid conservatorship and step in to manage important decisions the second it becomes necessary.

Establish Powers of Attorney and Advance Directives to Avoid Conservatorships

Failure to plan for all possibilities—even those we would rather not think about—can have unintended consequences. If you neglect estate planning now, you could limit your future options around issues like conservatorships, probate, and inheritance.

Our estate planning attorneys are in the business of addressing sensitive questions in a professional and empathetic manner. To start planning today, contact our office at 614-389-9711 and schedule a meeting.